During the Humble Habits course weekly wrap-up chat, Mystie explained that our seed habit is picking a verse or a motto that speaks truth, and say that to yourself at least three times daily.
No beating yourself up for thinking the wrong thing. No mad scramble for the “right” verse. Just a focus on truth. Because it matters what we feed ourselves… physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
Before I heard the wrap-up chat, I had thought we needed to find a specific truth to combat a specific lie or negative thought. So I began to think… As far as I’m aware (and I’m sure there are areas I’m not aware), most of what I think of as bad self-talk is about things I should be doing but am not. Such as, I don’t have time to, I don’t want to, I should do this but first I have to do this other thing, what will so-and-so think, I need more time so I’m not going to start, this thing (eating something bad for me, writing for two minutes…) is so small it doesn’t matter, I’ll do it later, my kids will fight me on this so we just won’t do it, etc,…
So then I was trying to think of truth to replace all those things, and furthermore I thought I should really have a scripture to go along with the truth (or be the truth), and then I got overwhelmed and didn’t do anything.
Keep it simple
So when Mystie said to just pick one phrase, motto, verse that speaks truth to us and then say that 3 or more times a day, I was so thankful for the simplicity and clarity of that suggestion.
I was then able to relax a bit and look at a few phrases that have been rattling around my head lately.
One morning I was praying that God would give me truth that I can dwell on, and I realized that much of what I need right now is wisdom for working with my children. The phrase from I Samuel 3:10 continues to come to mind: “Speak, Lord, for Your servant is listening.” I’ve also been thinking about the phrases, “Do not despise the day of small beginnings,” (from Zechariah 4:10) and “My grace is sufficient for you” (II Corinthians 12:9).
I wrote these phrases down in a journal and also on our big chalk board in the kitchen. Sometimes I incorporate them into my morning prayers.
It’s been an interesting contrast from when I was keeping track of my negative self-talk to now that I’m focusing on positive truth. I think both have their place. It’s good to be aware of what you tell yourself. But it’s also good to think about what you want to fill your mind with. It will be filled. It’s our choice about whether we will intentionally fill it with truth from a God who created and loves us, or allow messages that diminish who God created us to be. What do you choose?